Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Advice/ help?!?!?

well, about a week ago, my friend attempted suicide for what she says is the 7th time. she tried pills and cutting and almost considered hanging. Can anyone give me some ideas about how to comfort her?(everyone already knows so its not like a big secret). please i am really scared for her life....Advice/ help?!?!?
well i would advice is being there for her, calling her seeing how she is doing. telling her that what she is doing how much it affects you and her family. I would just try and find out what the cause of these feelings are, and should they start acting happy for no reason, watch them very closely, and drop by often. . The best advice I could give would be to listen, not talk or lecture, just listen. Yeah you can call the Suicide helpline and discover that you can call the police/medics who will be dispatched to collect the potential suicide person, however they too are legally bound to follow simple guidelines which if the patient says to them ';No I'm not contemplating suicide.'; (even if they are) there is nothing emergency personnel can do unless the patient has made an attempt, i.e. taken pills, is standing on the edge of a tall building ready to jump, etc.





You can suggest to your friend to call for help at the suicide help-line. However since she/he has reached the point where death is the only viable solution for whatever hurts them, I doubt that that would actually do anything to help the situation.





Pushing the point can push them over the edge. Its a no win situation here. Be loving and compassionate, offer the suggestion but ultimately what they do and feel is up to them and there is nothing you can do to stop it. Keep your friend busy. get her out and about, socialising any way posible.





also There is an organization called suicide watch. Look them up give them a call and speak about your friend. They have there ways of checking up on the person and may even reach out to her. You are not losing out by giving them a call, that is what they are there for. If you can't find their number speak to a social worker who may have other contacts. good luck :-)








just be a friend. be there as much as you can. get other close fiends or family you both trust involved. if its really bad, go to the doctors for advice or your local mental hospital who could admit her for a couple of weeks, voluntary. just think of it as a holiday for her where she can get her problems sorted.





tell her not to kill her self because that is evil


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You need to ensure her that when she feels no one cares you do and you need to make her laugh and smile.She should not be staying with negative people she needs to meet new people you should take her to a club or go to a sports bar dont give up some people who cant take it anymore go through with it.It is nothing to over look.It takes time but there is hope. well for me if i have a friend like her i will do my very best to always be with her even if she doesn't want to talk about it. just the fact that you are there for her will help her move on. don't force her to talk but instead be jolly or make her smile if u can..above all these PRAY it really works and also ask for guidance %26amp; strength for your friend.one thing more try asking for help from your guardian angel..good luck %26amp; hope somehow i helped you %26amp; your friend god blessAdvice/ help?!?!?
I don't know your friend, but if she's attempted suicide 7 times, she probably doesn't want to kill herself. She wants someone to notice the fat that she's hurting.





If she's actually attempting suicide, you need to let her parents know, IMMEDIATELY. She'll be pissed at you for awhile, but it's worth it in the end if you save her life.





How you comfort her is going to depend on why she's doing what she's doing.





Most girls don't really want advice, or a solution to their problems, we just want someone to earnestly listen to us. A lot of the time that alone helps.








Talk to her, but more importantly talk to her parents and get her some professional help. While I doubt she is actually wanting to die, suicide is a very serious matter and should NEVER be taken lightly.





Also try letting her know how it would make you feel should she actually do it. Remind her that her parents, friends, people at school, work, anyone that knows her would be affected by it, and how cruel and selfish her committing such an act would be.





Let her know she is loved.
Whatever you do don't push her too hard. It may just push her over the edge. Try taking her out places and make sure she is always having a good time. Try to help her remember all the good times she has had and help her understand all the opportunities she will have in the future. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem!
Honestly the best thing you could probably do for her is take to a (or refer her to a) therapist. It looks as if she's doing this for attention and she needs help with something that you might not be able to help her with. Professional help will probably be the safest and most effective way to go.
first off u have to find out why she thinks being dead is better than living!! then listen and talk about things that she loves that she will miss and will miss her. dont guilt her into living just try to help her realize there is nothing better than living life until it is your time to go. even in the worst times life is great. God only gives you what you can handle is what my mom always told me (we are not church going ppl but we have our own faith). good luck!!
tell her that YOU CARE about her. for people like that all they need is some TLC (Tender Loving Care) you just have to say please dont do that, promise me you wont do that things like that and ask how are you feeling all the time





things like that should work





theres always somone who cares about you no matter what
Professional help is your only hope im afraid. If you do not seek this then your fears for her are not genuine im sorry to say!!!!





Her family needs to know also so be a true friend and consult family and professional help for this poor girl.


Shelly
be really nice to her and make something really fun for her like a supise party how i know im the same as her and im quitting doing that stuff beacouse my friends did it oh and if u do the suprise party iinvite the popular people
OH JEEZ THAT'S FREAKY


Just be normal around her, try being her like BEST friend and get her to be a little lighter by like taking a walk or something going somewhere hanging out idk?
i really do not know if this will work but if u try talking to her and ask a lot of?'s so maybe try to comfort her
PLEASE GET HER PROFESSIONAL HELP!!
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